You hear a story, any story from more than one person and with every rendition the story will take on a new form; a new meaning. The facts may be the same, where facts are very quantifiable events but the overall feel; underlying motives will alter as per the perception and understanding of the narrator.
When relationships end, run into trouble or friendships sour; that is where one hears the “most” stories.Each party has a gruesome heart-rending version. Is there necessarily a wrong party and a right party? I am afraid not in all cases. Since an event has to filter through our own perceptions, hence each person will experience an event differently. For example, men and women take very simple things and understand them at variance all the times. Expectations vary from one person to the next. Women generally expect constant reinforcement of love verbally and physically, men will be complacent; if he is living with you obviously he cares!.She wants to be asked everything, wants to tell everything and share everything; he likes his space. No wonder the relationship bandwagon runs into portholes all the time. These differences may be generalizations of each gender, so lets take gender here as constant. Will then the truth be the same for everyone?
I am afraid not. Truth for each person is relative; a sacrifice deemed by one may be considered routine by another; something to do with an individual’s conditioning. There are so many factors at play when we are accessing an event but what we normally don’t take into account is our own temperament and our level of understanding. For one person vocalizing is easy, words are tools, for another they are precious resource scarcely touched upon. Some yell in pain; others suffer in silence. There are a hundred different labels on each one of us, sensitive types; impulsive, a rational ones governed by logic or a gullible ones driven by others ideas.
So why did someone do what they did?
The answer lays in that particular someone; but here is the twist. How many of us really understand why we do what we do? Can we really define our core essence as a person? If I was asked to explain each and every decision that I made will I be able to articulate?Usually people will answer with a set of their likes and dislikes, their beliefs and their core values. Are all these things different from who we are? or are we a sum total of all are memories and experiences, likes and dislikes?
Each and every one of us is constantly evolving and changing. Our environment, our frustrations our joys and even our biology are constantly altering us. Ten years from now when you will hear that “story”, you may come to a very different conclusion; the truth for you may have evolved from what you perceive as true today.Truth in essence is relative.
